INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLING AUTHORS, RELATIONSHIP CONSULTANTS, & CONFLICT RESOLUTION EXPERTS

Boundaries That Transform Arguments Into Agreements

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Unlock your ultimate power and master the art of setting boundaries as you embark on a transformative journey within the pages of BOUNDARY BADASS.

This self-empowerment book will guide you to break free from feelings of powerlessness, build stronger relationships, and elevate your inherent value.

A boundary book and workbook all in one!

Boundary Badass was released on Amazon March 28th and became the #1 International Best Seller in the categories of Emotions and Mental Health, Business Management, Entrepreneurship, Business Development and Entrepreneurship, Professional Management and Leadership, & Business Management and Leadership within just a few hours of launch. Reaching Best-Selling Status in the US and Canada, The UK, and Netherlands in 68 Best-Selling Categories, including 10 of them ranking #1. Jan and Jillian have been featured in ABC, FOX, CBS, and various other media outlets for their work in elevating others' value and relationships.

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Jan and Jillian

Relationship & Conflict Resolution Consultants

Their inspiring journey began when the sisterly duo went through a culture shock of moving from a rural farm town of 900 to a metropolitan city of 3 million, enduring some hard lessons. Going through relationship hurdles both personally and professionally, they realized emotion-based techniques were never going to meet their needs and needed stronger boundaries. After adjusting their communication style and using their value-based framework, they went from feeling powerless to valuable in their relationships. As International Best Sellers, becoming a global resource for individuals who want to elevate their value and cultivate thriving relationships.

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Setting boundaries is the integrity to respect ourselves while simultaneously understanding perspectives outside of our own for mutual respect.

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Integrity is the foundation of trust. If someone’s behavior consistently raises doubts, believe the pattern—not the excuses.

Have you ever had to distance yourself from someone who lacked integrity?

We have 👯‍♀️ And you can read about our story in chapter 9 of our book: Boundary Badass.

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Boundaries keep the flames burning bright
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When attachment styles clash, relationships can feel like an emotional tug-of-war—one partner craves closeness while the other needs space.

This misalignment isn’t a sign of failure but an opportunity for self-awareness, clear boundaries, and healthier communication.

Understanding your patterns is the first step toward breaking the cycle and creating secure, fulfilling connections.

You can read more about attachment styles in our book: Boundary Badass.

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5 Tips To Repair Your Relationship After An Argument

1. Take a Cooling-Off Period - Give each other space to process emotions before attempting to resolve the issue.

(Note: set a time to regroup before parting ways so one or both parties do not feel the problem is being brushed under the rug. It should tried to be resolved within 72 hours max).

2.Acknowledge Your Role - Take responsibility for any part you played in the conflict without shifting blame.

3. Listen with Empathy - Allow the other person to express their feelings and concerns without interruption.

(Note: set a timer if needed, 2 minutes per verbal exchange for each party. A conversation should have a ping pong effect not one party controlling the conversation).

4. Find Common Ground - Focus on solutions and mutual understanding rather than rehashing the argument or bringing up past unresolved issues.

5. Rebuild Positivity - Engage in small acts of kindness, support, or quality time to restore connection.

If this resonated with you, you can learn more about conflict resolution strategies and rebuilding trust in our book: Boundary Badass. (Link in bio)

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🚫 Tired of attracting egocentric people? 🚫

Whether it’s a friend, boss, or partner, certain patterns can leave you stuck in one-sided relationships.

Here’s how to break the cycle:

✨ 1. Strengthen Your Boundaries
🔹 Friends: Don’t tolerate guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation.
🔹 Bosses: Set clear limits on workload—approval isn’t earned through overworking.
🔹 Partners: If someone dismisses your boundaries, take it as a red flag.

✨ 2. Heal Your People-Pleasing Tendencies
🔹 Friends: You’re not responsible for keeping the peace at your own expense.
🔹 Bosses: Declining requests to unfair demands doesn’t make you a bad employee.
🔹 Partners: Love isn’t about losing yourself to please someone else.

✨ 3. Trust Actions Over Words
🔹 Friends: A real friend follows through—not just makes empty promises.
🔹 Bosses: Respect should be shown in fair treatment, not just compliments.
🔹 Partners: If words and actions don’t match, believe the actions.

✨ 4. Develop Self-Worth & Inner Confidence
🔹 Friends: You don’t have to be the “fixer” or emotional dumping ground.
🔹 Bosses: Confidence keeps you from tolerating toxic work environments.
🔹 Partners: When you value yourself, you stop settling for less than you deserve.

✨ 5. Recognize & Avoid Love-Bombing
🔹 Friends: Instant “soul sister/brother” energy? Too much too soon can be a red flag.
🔹 Bosses: Over-the-top praise may be manipulation to get more from you.
🔹 Partners: Healthy love grows over time—fast-tracked intimacy is a warning sign.

💡 The key? Know your worth, set clear boundaries, and trust your intuition.

Have you ever dealt with an egocentric friend, boss, or partner? Drop a 💬 below! 👇
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Some people project their own insecurities onto others, discouraging them from success. These individuals project their self-doubt, aka tall poppy syndrome, onto successful people to undermine them because they feel inadequate.

Never let anyone rob you of your success because they lack the belief to do it themselves. Shine bright and ignite the light within others.

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You’ve been enough all along. Now, own it.

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Your value doesn’t disappear when you’re feeling low—it’s just harder to see.

Self-doubt tricks your mind into focusing on what’s missing instead of what’s already there. But here’s the truth: your strengths, experiences, and potential haven’t gone anywhere.

💡 Reframe the struggle—every setback is data, not defeat.
💡 Reconnect with your purpose—what once lit you up still exists within you.
💡 Take action, even if small—momentum rebuilds confidence.

Your mind follows your focus. Shift it toward growth, and watch your self-worth rise.

You bring value, even when you don’t feel like it.

Looking for more ways to speak your truth@and own your worth? Check out our book Boundary Badass.

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When communicating with an avoidant individual, understanding their psychological tendencies can help foster trust and connection.

Here are five psychological communication tips:

1. Give Them Space, But Stay Present 🏡➡️👀
Avoidant individuals often withdraw when overwhelmed. Instead of chasing, let them know you’re available: “I’m here when you’re ready to talk.” This reduces pressure while keeping the door open.

2. Be Direct, Not Overwhelming 🎯
Avoidant personalities struggle with emotional intensity. Stick to clear, concise communication without excessive emotional weight. Instead of “We need to talk about something serious,” try “I want to check in about our shared goals/projects When can we talk?.”

3. Validate Without Cornering ✅
They fear losing independence, so reassurance helps. Use phrases like “I understand why you’d feel that way” rather than “You always shut down.” Validation fosters safety, not defensiveness.

4. Focus on Actions Over Emotions 🔄
Instead of demanding emotional depth, frame discussions around actions. “What’s a good way to move forward?” gives them a concrete path rather than pressuring them to express feelings.

5.Respect Their Boundaries, But Set Yours Too 🚧
Avoidant individuals may retreat, but all relationships require reciprocity. Balance their need for space with your need for communication by saying: “I respect your space, but I also need clarity. Can we find a way to meet in the middle?”

If you are looking for better ways to communicate with an avoidant individual, regardless of the dynamic, grab your very own copy of Boundary Badass today.

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Conflict often stems from feeling unheard or misunderstood. Instead of reacting, take a step back and show genuine curiosity about the other person’s perspective.

Ask thoughtful, open-ended questions that help uncover the emotions behind their words. Many conflicts are fueled by emotional triggers—past experiences, unmet needs, or deep-seated fears.

When you take the time to understand what’s really driving their reaction, you help them feel seen and valued. This not only diffuses tension but also opens the door to meaningful resolution. True connection starts with listening.

If I could tell my younger self one thing, it would be this: always speak up, ask for what you need with confidence and conviction, and never hesitate to walk away from those who fail to respect you.

Doing so will transform your life and health in unimaginable: ways. Trying to please others at the expense of yourself only shatters your inner peace, takes a toll on your physical health, and leaves you emotionally drained.

Looking back, you’ll realize much of the pain and struggle could have been avoided by simply setting boundaries.

Thank you for all the lessons and blessings and becoming Boundary Badass.
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Ever feel drained, frustrated, or invisible in your relationships?

Ineffective boundaries might be the silent culprit.

When we constantly overextend, avoid conflict, or give too much of ourselves, we lose sight of our own needs and worth.

It’s time to set the boundary—not out of anger, but out of love and respect for yourself.

Reclaim your highest power, protect your peace, and create the space for deeper, healthier connections.

Ready to speak your truth? Start tightening your boundaries and you transform your life.

BOUNDARY BADASS- gives you the simple skills and strategies to elevate your value and relationships. Start listening or reading today.

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Creating emotional attunement with a partner simply comes down to a few simple skills listening, asking insightful questions, validation of emotions, and making sure you both are on the same page. These communication tools help keep the relationship thriving and each partner feeling heard be understood.

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True power is internal character, not external control. Master yourself and you will capture respect from anyone you encounter.

Voice your value - Boundary Badass. Grab your copy today watch how all your relationships shift.

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Have a strong desire to reach out to someone but not sure what to send?

Here’s 5 meaningful text prompts you can send that will inspire a response:

1. Thought Check-in: I was thinking about you today. How’s life been treating you?

2. Shared Memory: Do you remember that time we {specific memory}? I just thought about it and couldn’t stop smiling. We need another adventure like that soon.

3. Curiosity Prompt: What has your attention these days? Any new shows, hobbies, or something else?

4. Random, But Fun: If you could drop everything right now and go anywhere in the world, where would it be?

5. Relatable: What’s the most relaxing thing you’ve done this week? I’m looking for ideas to unwind after work.

Asking simple open-ended questions are great for striking up a conversation. It shows you are taking interest in them while engaging a response that isn’t yes or no.

Closed-ended questions make it more challenging to start or keep a conversation going.

Want to learn how to become a pro at asking the best questions? Check out Chapter 5 in our book Boundary Badass.

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Connection isn’t built in big moments—it’s nurtured in the little things we do daily.

From thoughtful notes to shared adventures, secure couples strive to keep the spark alive.

Which of these couple habits will you try with your partner?

Check out Chapter 15 in our book Boundary Badass for more psychological insight to nurturing your relationship and establishing couple boundaries.

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What makes you feel safe in a relationship?

If you’re unsure, think about the times where you felt unsafe.

Maybe it’s when they deceived you. This means you value honesty or trustworthy.

Or perhaps they said they would call you and didn’t. This means you value integrity or communication.

Knowing your top relationship values can you identify if you are in a healthy fulfilling relationship or not.

And if your needs aren’t being met, it’s time to start setting boundaries based on your relationship values.

Check out Chapter 4 and 9 in our book: Boundary Badass. This will give you the exact exercise to identify your values and start setting boundaries to build a healthy relationship where you feel safe, secure, and seen.
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Be selective on who you give access to… 🤍

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Validation isn’t about saying, “You’re right.” It’s about saying, “You matter.” 💞

When we take the time to acknowledge our partner’s feelings, even when we see things differently, we create a safe space for connection. It’s in that space where trust grows, conflicts soften, and relationships thrive. ✨

Remember, it’s not about winning the argument—it’s about strengthening the bond. ❤️‍🔥

🔑 Validating phrases like “I can see why this matters to you” or “I want to understand your perspective” remind your partner that they are heard and understood (even if you don’t agree and share a different perspective).

For negotiating resolutions, grab your copy of BOUNDARY BADASS. Now available in audio. DM us for audible credit.

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Let’s talk about that moment.

You’re sitting there, staring at your phone, heart pounding, hands shaking. You’ve typed out the message a dozen times, only to delete it just as fast.

Why?
Because doubt is whispering in your ear.
“It’s not good enough.”
“They won’t take it well.”
“What if they walk away?”

Here’s the truth: that voice in your head? It’s lying to you.

You’ve spent years saying “yes” to keep the peace. You’ve swallowed your words, your needs, your self, just to make others happy. And where has that gotten you?

Here’s what happens when you press send:
A weight lifts off your chest.
Your heart rate slows down.
And for the first time, you feel the power of respecting yourself.

Because setting that boundary isn’t about losing someone else—it’s about finding you.

Doubt is the enemy of growth. It’ll try to convince you to stay small, stay quiet, stay stuck. But the moment you decide to hit send, you’re telling doubt, “You don’t own me anymore.”

And guess what? That’s the moment everything changes.

You don’t need their approval. You don’t need their permission. All you need is the courage to take back your power.

So don’t let doubt win. Take a deep breath, press send, and step into the freedom that’s been waiting for you all along.

Grab our book BOUNDARY BADASS to set boundaries with confidence. They will elevate your value and relationships where people won’t walk away.

Our 4 step method builds connection, resolves conflict, and creates alignment for growth.

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Five Psychological Cues That Build
Emotional Intimacy

1. Vulnerability-share personal feelings or experiences, encouraging mutual openness

2. Empathetic Responses-validate the other person’s emotions by actively acknowledging their feelings or thoughts

3. Physical Proximity-use gentle, appropriate physical gestures, like a reassuring touch on the arm, sitting next to each other, or holding hands

4. Attentiveness—be fully present in conversations, eliminating distractions, and making the other person feel like a priority

5. Shared Experiences-engage in meaningful activities together that create unity and understanding

If you or your partner are having a difficult time trying to emotionally stay connected, using one of these behaviors can help open up the communication channels to build connection.

Emotional intimacy is vital for romantic relationships yet it’s one the first thing that declines when there is a disconnect.

Looking for more resources? Check out our book Boundary Badass to set emotional or couple boundaries.

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Unbothered isn’t ignoring—it’s owning your peace and self worth.

Staying calm, composed, and unapologetically in control, no matter what life throws your way is a superpower.

When you show up unbothered, you’re saying: 🔥 “I refuse to let anyone else control my energy.” 🔥 “My peace is non-negotiable.” 🔥 “I choose my power over nonsense.”

It’s not about pretending things don’t matter—it’s about mastering your responses, setting boundaries, and redirecting your focus.

Want to elevate your power?
Start responding, stop reacting.

Drop a 🔥 in the comments if you’re stepping into your unbothered era!

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✨ Secure Relationships = Lifelong Fulfillment ✨

Ever wonder what truly makes a relationship thrive? It starts with security—the foundation for trust, empathy, and meaningful connection. Psychologically, secure people demonstrate these traits because they’ve cultivated emotional regulation, self-awareness, and healthy attachment styles.

Here’s why these habits matter:

💬 Authentic Communication: Expressing thoughts openly while listening to others promotes emotional safety, helping both people feel seen and valued.

🤝 Calm Conflict Resolution: Secure individuals know that aggressive or manipulative tactics erode trust. Instead, they face challenges head-on with value and reason.

🔒 Healthy Boundaries: Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re bridges to mutual respect. By knowing their limits, secure people protect their energy and their relationships.

🌱 Growth Mindset: They approach mistakes with humility, learning from them instead of shifting blame. This mindset encourages growth for both themselves and their partners.

🕊 Forgiveness Over Grudges: Letting go of resentment clears emotional space for healing and connection, fostering healthier dynamics.

🎉 Shared Joy & Support: From celebrating successes to offering a shoulder during tough times, secure people build relationships that weather any storm.

👉 Want to build this security in your own life? Start with self-awareness: journal your triggers, practice mindful listening, and take small steps toward better boundaries. You’ll attract relationships that mirror the work you’ve done on yourself.

Save this post as a reminder, and tag someone you’re grateful for today! 🤍.

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Your intuition is a quiet voice — a tug in your chest, a moment of clarity, or a gut feeling urging you to take action.

Trusting it isn’t always easy….

Doubt can seep in…

Others opinions contradict what you feel…

When you listen to it, you build trust and integrity with yourself. You begin to feel powerful and confident knowing your choices are what’s best for you.

But the minute you ignore it…you lose opportunities. You disrespect your worth. You default to fears. You are no longer honoring your truth.

Remember, your intuition is your guide to knowing which direction to go and what decisions to make. Trust it.

Grab our book Boundary Badass to start creating personal alignment and trust with yourself.
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Five Psychological Cues That Show They Don’t Value You

1. Dismissive Communication-they interrupt, talk over you, and minimize your achievements or feelings

2. Inconsistent Effort-the only
engage when it’s convenient for them and fail to follow through on promises.

3. Frequent Criticism-they regularly point out flaws or mistakes without offering encouragement or solutions.

4. Avoidance of Important Conversations-they evade discussions about the relationship, your needs, or tuture plans, leaving you feeling unheard.

5. Lack of Reciprocity-they rarely initiate contact, they aren’t supportive, and rarely reciprocate what you do for them.

Do you have anyone like this in your life?

If so, it’s time to elevate your values and set boundaries like a badass

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When we shrink our voice, we deny our needs for fulfillment.

When we stay silent, we inadvertently give others permission that we are okay with the behavior.

When we don’t speak up, we don’t own our self worth.

VOICE YOUR VALUE and set BOUNDARIES LIKE A BADASS

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New Year, New Boundaries!

What boundaries will you be setting this year?

Boundary Badass is now out on audiobook!

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Deflection is a defense mechanism often rooted in insecurity or fear of accountability.

By shifting blame, downplaying actions, or manipulating facts, individuals avoid facing uncomfortable truths about themselves.

Understanding this behavior can help you set boundaries and protect your peace.

When was the last time you experienced someone deflecting during a conversation?

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10 Differences Between Ultimatums & Boundaries That Will Change Your Relationships

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Boundaries That Transform Arguments Into Agreements

Available Now!

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What We Do

Relationship Elevation & Boundary Setting

Relationship Captial & Conflict Resolution

Family Mediation & Coparenting Coaching

Authors & Speakers Boundary Badass

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Reclaim Your Power

10 Differences Between Ultimatums & Boundaries That Will Change Your Relationships

ACCELERATE YOUR VALUE & POWER

SET BOUNDARIES LIKE A BADASS

ACHIEVE RELATIONSHIP RESOLUTION

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Be valued. Be respected. Be badass

Relationship Elevation
& Boundary Setting

SET BOUNDARIES
LIKE A BADASS

ACHIEVE RELATIONSHIP
RESOLUTION